The Effect of a Stressful Workplace
To contrast this worst case scenario with a better way to handle Memory Plus Program Review the same situation let us picture a family where the older child-as much as possible (depending on age)-is told about the new arrival and about the older child's future role in the family. The first child remains at home with a close family member when the mother (and father) is at the hospital.
When the mother returns she is NOT holding and feeding a new baby. She rushes to the first child tells him/her how much she missed him or her makes a great display of attention/affection over the first child and then later introduces the subject Would you like to see your new baby brother or sister After the introduction the mother again makes a big fuss over the first child and gives it gifts. Thus by actions-that speak louder than words-the first is assured of its continued value and place in the family and the threat of displacement and abandonment is substantially lessened.
This better case scenario was learned by the first author through an experience with puppies. We had an adorable Pomeranian puppy for three weeks and then decided it needed a companion. When the second arrived the first snarled and pulled back. Instinctively I snatched up the first puppy hugged it made a big fuss over it and when I set it down it wagged its tail and walked up to lick the face of the second. All it had needed was assurance of its own position before it could welcome the addition of the second puppy.
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